Since I am now the proud owner of a beautiful online adult shop, I have undertaken to learn more about sex. The search history on my laptop might shock the faint of heart after all the research I’ve done. From the benefits of masturbation to the art of it. From kinky to quirky, to an idiot’s guide to finding the vibrator suited for you. While I plan to share this knowledge on Scarlet’s with anybody willing to read about it, I would like to first start with the most obvious lesson in sex:
If you are enjoying sex and not harming anyone (who hasn’t consented to it), you are doing it right. It’s really that simple. There are no rules other than the big one of ensuring all involved are sharing the joy.
If you are in a relationship that enjoys the good ol’ fashion missionary sex three times a week, and you are both satisfied, you are doing it right.
If you are single and you are satisfied with what you are doing, you are doing it right.
If you are swinging from the chandeliers every weekend, you are satisfied and the chandeliers are properly installed, then you are doing it right.
If you and your partner enjoy anal stimulation, you are doing it right.
If you enjoy being whipped by your partner, you are doing it right.
If you enjoy being tied up by your partner, you are doing it right.
If you enjoy talking dirty to your partner, you are doing it right.
If you enjoy long lasting foreplay with your partner first, you are doing it right.
If you enjoy a quickie in the shower before work, you are doing it right.
I have left a few things out here, but trust me, if you are enjoying it, you are doing it right.
It really is that simple! Enjoy it!
Well, if only it was this simple. The reason it gets complicated is because we don’t talk about it openly. Imagine what we would learn if we all started talking about sex the same way we talked about our breakfast, and sharing tips like we share recipes?
Imagine if I was able to speak of my uncomfortable experience with my new butt-plug the same way I could talk about my new blender in my kitchen.
If I was to walk into my open plan office and say “I bought a blender and I can’t seem to get it to work right” I would be inundated with advice and I would probably get some positive feedback that would get my blender working.
Now, If I was to walk into that same open plan office and say “I tried using my new vibrator last night and it isn’t what I was hoping for” Gosh, that would be a total shocker! Let’s for a minute pretend it was acceptable and think of all the advice we would get “Oh, I have the same one, next time use a different lubricant” or “That might have happened because the batteries were not fully charged”
Some people might be liberated enough to wish for such comfort, others are very happy that we don’t live in that kind of world. Both schools of thought are right. The most important part is to be comfortable with your choice and respectful of other’s.
If you prefer to keep your sex life private, but still want your questions to be answered, Scarlets will assist. If you are unsure of what to buy, or how to go about trying new things, contact us and we will get back to you with the information or recommendations you require. We want to ensure you are comfortable and enjoying yourself, and of course, that you are doing it right.